Thursday, February 7, 2013

Not for Dexter but for Debra.

So who are Dexter and Debra? They are the siblings from the hot shot super hit show named Dexter. This show has completed 7 seasons and had started way back in 2005. But we (i.e Dexter and me) kind of met quite recently, i.e. last year and since then, we (i.e the series and me :-)) are glued. I confess I have an addiction, a dark passenger (you would only get this, if you watch the series). I have to watch at least one episode(2 would be a bonus night) per night while I am having my dinner. I begin to agitate and display symptoms of a addict if that doesn't happen. I am into the 6th season, and I am terrified now. Soon I will be into the 7th, and once that's done, what do I watch! Yeah Dexter is coming back for season 8, but the rumor is that, that's going to be the last. Gosh hell No Please!

Al rite, so the post is really not about Dexter or my addiction. The post is entirely and truly dedicated to Debra Morgan.
I L O V E that woman.

Debra Morgan:
She is Dexter's younger sister. She was a detective and is now a lieutenant with the Miami Metro Police force and she is sincerely, sincerely (am thinking how much more can I stress on the sincerely, but I hope you get the point) addicted to her work. Ultra thin and tall, she comes across as a strong woman, always in stripe shirts and trousers and in a total de glam look, she is beautiful. But the most important thing that I like about her, is that she is NORMAL girl, so normal that it feels she has actually lived my life!

Season 1:
She is of course crazy about her job and very good at it, but is naive and kind of immature. She totally believes in the concept of love and wants the flowers and out of the world proposals. She is not possessive, but tends to be clingy, and expects all the love in return, which she easily gives. She is dependant on her man, and eventually the man uses her and (forget about breaking her heart) tries to kill her! Debra is ashamed beyond shock and is terribly embarrassed and is completely broken.

This immature quality to cling and expect and love unconditionally, even if it hurts your self respect/confidence, because you know its for the love of your life, and then really be rooted out of your belief, is a feeling that I am not alien too. And I know a lot of other woman, who are not too. It eventually leads to insecurity and low self esteem, and one starts feeling dejected, depressed and useless.

Season 2:
Debra starts questioning her beliefs about love and relationships, and goes into some serious depression. The only way she ventures out of that, is by working out, and working out hard.
This way to come out of it, amazes me. I also went (or rather I am in) that phase of excessive working out and excessive obsession with the weight(well Debra doesn't have the obsession, because she already was so thin in Season 1). The excessiveness actually directs all your pent up anger and energy into something useful and generates this great levels of positivity. The feeling when people comment about your weight, and the feeling when you get into sizes smaller than you normally wear,believe me, is a lot better than having to get flowers and chocolates and calls from that guy :-)

Season 3-4-5 : One thing I totally love about the series is that it is terribly real. I know I said that before, but I cant help reiterate. Real not because of Dexter, but because of Debra. Her reactions to situations, her anger, her moods swings. I really get that and I feel for her. Its almost as if I am saying to her, 'Girl I know what that feels like'! Because really its not a goody goody life, but its actually (in Debra's words) 'A f___king life'.
In these seasons, her motto is just work work and more work. She of course falls in love again to lose her loved one again(but this time because her lover dies due to a criminal), she falls cautiously and only when she the other person reciprocates. In Season 5, she is the one putting off her man, so very opposite of what she was in season 1. See how she has evolved, and just because experience is the best teacher. That pain and agony in season one, well yeah she doesn't want to go through that again. No man is worth that. And I am again smiling because, I have learnt it the hard way too. No more clingy, no more desperate calls from me. Give space and then you get space. Lets things take time and fall in their place when they want to. And when you do, you get all that in return which you always wanted.

In these seasons, she also faces some serious hardships from her boss(yeah again its a hard life) and she overcomes that to become a lieutenant. Because if you are sincere, you get the job done. Well people who have been interacting with me lately, know about my job scene, and really its not all that different! So whoa again I see what she does, and I do that. Move on, but still do your job!

Well in season 6, she becomes the boss, and I have finished like just 5 episodes, so it would be too soon to comment about her love/professional life, but what I have seen she has grown AGAIN. She learns and grows, and never repeats those mistakes again. Yeah she admits those faults, but moves on, importantly moves ahead always. And this is what I like the best about her and this is what draws me, the most to her. Yes she is human, yes she is a somewhere a sweet little girl, yes she has her flaws but yes she is strong and resolute. If you thought she was stupid in seasons before, you would be forced to change your opinion, you would be now forced to respect her.
Guys, Watch Dexter not for Dexter but for Debra!

And look, she too has this weird obsession of cutting her long hair very short, to growing it again! Are the similarities going to end now. Oh I forgot, I don't look like her at all.. sigh :-(





All Images from Google.

42 comments:

  1. +1 on the addiction to Dexter! same here.. but not to worry, finish this up, and start with Homeland now!

    btw, have you noticed how much of a cry baby debra has become over the years.. i mean common woman, hold urself together.. lately she's been shedding a tear practically every episode, arrrrgh

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    1. Oh now please dont say that :-( I love her. And she is growing stronger and stronger.

      Oh yeah please suggest some more series, else I would come and kill you (dexter style ;-))

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    3. Thank you!!! Yes, big crybaby!!! "Waa,waa,waa!!" "Me,me,me!!" Kill yourself already!! Oh and say the F word once in a while will ya? Geeez! She's just an awful character.

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  2. Ahhh! Addiction to these crime series! I too had it once! Not for Dexter but for Criminal minds. I loved to watch Aron Hatchner in that :) But, I made up my mind and stopped watching it- because I started suspecting everyone around me was a serial killer!! Ha ha ...

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    1. Ahh Criminals Minds, I watch that too! And again for Aron Hotchner!! I love jj too and everybody else. Yeah that is quite addictive too and seriously you start to think the way they do!

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    2. Ok first you "sigh" because you DONT look like this ridiculously ugly hag of a woman.. Really!? Wow!! Second.. Watch the show for Deborah!?! C'mon.. She is the ugliest,whiny crybaby I've ever seen and I will never watch anything with Jennifer Carpenter in it ever again. I hate this woman and I really hope her character dies in the series, I just started watching on Netflix.. And last.. What's up with the talking from the side of her mouth? Did she have a stroke?! And they really need to stop showing shots of her topless laying in bed.. Can you say male, teenage basketball player!? Eat a burger and grow an ass for god sake!!! Blah!!!!

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  3. I haven't seen even a single episode of this show but I will. I am addicted, actually me and alok are addicted. We pick one show and watch all the seasons, one episode during dinner, just like you. I have seen Criminal Minds, White Collar, 24, Covert Affairs, CSIs and I think we will pick up D&D after we are done with watching our latest addiction which btw is watching all post 9/11 movies based on true stories.

    Thanks for the recommendation. I'm sure Alok will love it.

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    1. Criminal minds and CSI are my favorites too! And seriously how dinner time passes away, I dont even realise! I heard very good reviews about 24, so would have to watch that too.. Yes 9/11 movies are engrossing too, all those documentaries.

      Oh yeah you would love it too. Just watch the first season, watch it completely and you would be hooked. My fav seasons are 1,5 as of now.

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    2. I tried with a couple of episodes of Season 1 but didn't like it much :(

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  4. Heyyy der..! You can clearly know why i was dragged to this blog...I am standing exactly in your shoes..:) Watching dexter since few months...I share the same same same feeling of being like Debra..:) But not to miss i loveee Dexterrr..!

    I am also afraid of not going fast on episodes because i don't know what will i do after that..! And Debra roxxsss..:) And appreciate your way of communicating your love and craziness for a character of a series..:)

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    1. wow! So finally I find someone who watches and loves Dexter and loves Debra too! welcome to the blog and thank you for sharing your views on this :-) Glad there are more people like me out there!

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  5. Bones, CSI, Numbers, Criminal Minds :D are my addictions :D but then never wanted to see Dexter not sure why now after your recommendation I will take this up too :D
    But my huge addictions are which are my all time favorites they are Big Bang theory and Two and half men.
    Also Madly in love with Sex and the City most :D
    See this is how my taste is :D Part of me craves for suspense, major portion for humor and yet there is some part which shows girly side of me!!! :D

    So I think we are what we see ;)? can we say that... Lovely post Jen you made all of us to tell you little additions and share our views :D

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    1. I like Bing bang theory too! And Sheldon even more :-))

      Yet to have a viewing of the sex and the city. I think I have to watch couple of episodes of this show now :-)

      Two and half men, yeah I like that too! Bones, not heard of it, but now will google it :-)
      yeah CSI, criminal minds all all good, watched loads of times!!

      Please do watch dexter, its very very good!

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  6. Jenny, this was such a delightful post for someone whose televiewing is limited to 30-45 min a day! Your review now makes me realize what all I am missing!!!!

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    1. Actually Rahul sir, my TV viewing is Zero. This is on the laptop, and this is the only viewing, so we are more or less on the same time frame :-) But if you want to make that hour count, please switch to dexter :-)

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  7. Ya Debra is so real...She is a typical girl who constatly craves approval first from her father then her brother but for rest of the world she doesnt give a '$hit :P

    I loveee dexter too though. I think both these characters form the soul of the serial.

    You should watch Mentalist too. I am crazy about Patrick Jane too..and ofcourse Hotch ;)

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    1. yeah Mentalist is next on the list. Actually a lot of shows are next on the list :-) So I really need not be all that sad :-)

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  8. I loved watching The Big Bang Theory & Two and Half Men....) Thanks for giving a brief overview of Debra, I guess every girl would be able to relate to her....Never watched, but will surely check it out...:)

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    1. You would surely like it. Please do watch.
      And hey who doesn't love Sheldon :-)

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  9. My husband is a huge fan of Dexter. He went back and watched all the episodes. I was hooked on to Law and Order and Weeds. These days I only watch Crime Patrol :).

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    1. You ought to watch it too. It would make you also go back and watch all the episodes :-) Would check out Law and order and weeds.

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  10. i could so very much relate my life to this post .. for my unending affinity to prison break, heroes and big bang theory ..

    when prison break was in its final season , i knew i will not be able to live without it as it was very much in my blood .. so i prayed every night to god to fruit in new idea in director's mind to let this sitcom continue .. but it never had any light for a new day .. so what i did, i decided to watch it all over again and till date i have seen it 5 times .. and soon planning to start all over again ..

    same goes for big bang theory ..

    i never heard about dexter .. but now i did thanks to your post, i may take it from you someday in future :-)

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    1. We watched prison break back to back. Micheal is soooo good looking, and how he plans the escape for his brother. Yet to watch the other seasons, but I have heard Michael dies in the end, so I am kind of terrified to watch the others.

      Big bang theory is a favorite with everybody!

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  11. I haven't watched much of dexter but I love the episodes I watched. Nice to see a post on Debra , not many even acknowledge how she supports the story, alongside dexter.

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    1. Rightly pointed out Ashwini! Oh yeah, she is a very important part of the story, and season 7 (which I have started now), she is the key to so many things. Do go ahead and watch all the seasons. Season 5 being the best.

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  12. Your passion for Dexter (and Debra) reminds me of my passion for sitcoms like Friends and Rules of Engagement.. And yes, even I watched them during my dinner, usually extended dinner to ensure I complete one episode - even though I have seen the episode a million times before! :D

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    1. hehe, I know about the extended dinner. The plates dry up, but we are still there waiting for the epsiode to finish. Looking at the comments, this seems to be a norm in almost every household :-)

      Oh friends is always running in my house, in the background, and yeah your right about the million times :-)

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  13. Jennnyyyyyyyyyyyy ... Now I need to strt watching Dexter ! :D

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  14. Dexter is my favorite show on television! I LOVE Debra.

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  15. Thnx for giving me a premise....have never watched Dexter.

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  16. jenny you are kidding me..itna major fan ?? :) :) but none the same, i like the sincerity with which you have written this..i am still grief stricken over the end of Greys Anatomy

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  18. I used to follow Dexter, but then stopped in between, and now i'm not very regular.
    Certain tv series are indeed very addictive.
    I've always been fond of Debra's character :)

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  19. dexter is for niche audiences who like it and are okay with flesh and bloodshed. I love the show! sadly its coming to a close soon :(

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